Dating While Vegan
Vegan dating can be a bit tricky especially when it comes to a few decisions you may have to make such as:
- Will you date only vegans
- Will you care whether your partner is vegan or not
- Maybe you will be open to either a vegan date or non vegan date
- Maybe you are open to dating someone not vegan but you will have stipulations
These are some things to think about when you are venturing out into the dating world.
Let’s cover some of the reasons you may choose one of the above examples.
You will only date a vegan
For some people, the answer is yes, they will only date a vegan.
Just know the dating pool will become significantly smaller if you choose this route.
The advantage is that dating someone who is vegan removes the potential barrier of differences of opinions/ethics surrounding veganism. This makes an enjoyable experience when it comes to sharing meals and interests with each other.
For most vegans, dating another vegan is theoretically the ONLY option they would consider.
You don’t care if your partner is vegan or not
Some vegans would happily date non-vegans. Veganism may not be a big factor in their decision to be with someone or not.
Some people are used to their friends and family being omnivorous and don’t see that dating a non vegan as a large issue.
For some relationships, this works very well, as long as there is a great deal of respect between partners.
You are open to dating someone who is not vegan, but with some stipulations
Some vegans are open to dating vegetarians and that would be the exception to dating a vegan.
Of course this can be seen as a step towards their date hopefully becoming vegan as there probably will be some overlap in the foods they eat together.
Another possibility as to why someone may date a vegetarian is because they hope that while dating they will respect veganism while they are together.
While this may all seem very one sided, understand everyone has a choice in who they want to date.
Now let’s dive into some issues that come up while dating and into future considerations.
You started dating your partner before going vegan
Many vegans began dating their partner before they became vegan themselves.
Rather than breaking up with someone they love purely based on veganism, they will typically stay with their partner after they make this change.
They may introduce their partner to more plant-based foods over time, hoping that they will eventually become vegan as well.
Ultimately, they may just accept that their partner will continue to eat animal products regularly.
This road can sometimes be difficult as the relationship goes through change over time.
The non-vegan partner may resist the changes, or they may be supportive. They may even be interested in trying out veganism as well.
Dealing with the non vegan significant other
For vegans who are dating non-vegans, there are some additional factors to consider. I have outlined some common concerns that could arise for vegan/omni couples below.
Will your children be vegan, or will your future children be vegan?
For vegans who have children or are planning to have children having different beliefs about veganism can become a difficult topic.
Some couples will raise strictly vegan children. This often happens in couples where the omni partner is very supportive of veganism and understands that all of a person’s nutritional needs can be met with a vegan diet.
Some couples will raise children on a vegan diet in their home but will be flexible about the consumption of animal products outside of their home.
Sometimes family members like grandparents who care for the children will refuse to stick to a vegan diet for the children. Therefore, the couple decides to make some exceptions.
Possibly peer pressure and convenience comes into play while at school and to help your child feel comfortable one might make an exception while they are at school.
Some vegan/omni couples will raise vegetarian children as a compromise between the two diets.
Some couples will allow their children to eat all animal products. Although this most likely will be difficult for the vegan partner in the relationship since veganism is typically also about ethics.
Many people choose to raise vegan children until they become old enough to decide on their diet by themselves.
All these options are of personal choice that is decided between parents.
There is certainly no one answer for every vegan with a non-vegan partner.
Will you cook meat for your partner?
Oh this one is a really tough question and definitely a hard issue to work through when your significant other wants you to cook meat for them.
Only you can decide how comfortable you are with cooking meat for your significant other. Typically is boils down to the reason why you are vegan.
Are you vegan for the diet or the lifestyle? If you decide to not cook meat in the house for your non vegan partner this will definitely require a conversation that offers a lot of respect from both parties involved.
Will you have a vegan wedding?
Weddings are complicated already and having to think about the type of food to serve makes matters even more complicated especially when your guests are not vegan.
For some vegans, a vegan wedding is absolutely mandatory. They can’t imagine animal flesh and products being consumed by dozens or hundreds of people in honor of their relationship.
For others, food is a crucial part of keeping their omni partner or their guests happy. If only one partner is vegan, the couple has likely already become quite comfortable with compromise and determining what is acceptable for each of them.
For vegan couples, sometimes veganism is a highly controversial topic with family members.
In an ideal vegan world, everyone would be vegan and all events would be vegan. But in reality, each person must decide where they draw the line in terms of how much they are willing to compromise.
Dating and relationships can be complicated. Veganism can be a very important part of someone’s life and their ethics.
As you can see there really is no simple answer to some of these situations. Each person should make their decisions based on a variety of factors from experience, to ethics, and morals.
So no matter where you are in your relationship, I hope your relationship is happy, healthy, and with lots of mutual respect.